- There is no right way to do thing things. Your aim is to foster warmth and positive attachment and to have fun together.
- During the special time, let your child direct. She is in charge of everything. don't tell him. Allow him to lead the play. Follow his lead.
Rules:
- Don't ask questions: no persistent questioning that directs the activity or demand a response
- turn your questions to statements: instead of asking "which one of the blocks do you want?", say "I'm excited to see which block you are going to do?", or "you always pick such cool colored blocks when you make a tower"
- Don't give demand: There are demands:
- Let's put the cars away
- Come over here
- Don't criticize: There are all criticize!
- The horse should go in the barn over here
- It'll work better if you hold your crayon this way
- I bet you can stay in the lines if you try harder
- Praise appropriate behavior: labeled praise.
- when praise, not necessary to refer to a previous failure
- Reflect your child's talk
- Imitate her actions
- Describe what she's doing
- Express enthusiasm
