Turn the survival moments into the opportunities to help kids thrive
Chapter 2: left brain and right brain
Left brain: logic, linguistic, literal, letter
Right brain: intuitive and emotional, non-verbal, experiences.
Very young children especially in the first 3 years are right-brain dominant, live in the moment.
When the toddlers begin to ask “why”, the left brain starts to develop.
To avoid the Emotion floods and emotion desserts. We want our children’s two brain hemispheres integrated.
Approach 1:
When our child is in emotion desserts: ignore her feelings by pretending she does not care. Refuse to communicate with us.
What we can do: don’t point out the truth directly. Try to use our right brain to feel what she feels. Use our posture and facial expressions to let her know we attune with her right brain. After establishing the connection between us, we can ask her to tell the story. While she’s telling the story, we try to introduce her to her real feeling and help her to deal with them in a productive way.
Step 1: Connect
When a child is in right-brain dominated, a non-logic, emotional mode, avoid to talk to her with your left brain's logic, try to connect with her with your right brain first. non-judgementally Listen to her and comfort her and acknowledge her feeling no matter how it is illogical to you, being caring and nurturing. tune in with how she is feeling. When a child is upset, logic won't work until when we respond to her right brain emotional needs.
Step 2: Redirect
When parents connect with the child, when the child calms down, the child is open to communication. Then it's the time to redirect your child's attention to address the problem.
Step 1: Connect
When a child is in right-brain dominated, a non-logic, emotional mode, avoid to talk to her with your left brain's logic, try to connect with her with your right brain first. non-judgementally Listen to her and comfort her and acknowledge her feeling no matter how it is illogical to you, being caring and nurturing. tune in with how she is feeling. When a child is upset, logic won't work until when we respond to her right brain emotional needs.
Step 2: Redirect
When parents connect with the child, when the child calms down, the child is open to communication. Then it's the time to redirect your child's attention to address the problem.
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